Thursday, November 5, 2009

For Tarah...

Tarah has been on me about updating my blog. So here I go.
How do some of you do it? Work, parent and blog? Am I a total slacker? Or are you all just saints?
I wish that I could call myself a slacker but I am not. I have been working 30-40 hour work weeks these past couple months. For those blogerville friends who I don't know in real life, I am a dog trainer and own my own business. At first I thought that training dogs would be a good part time job to have while starting a family. I traveled 2000 miles away from home and spent almost 3 months of my life mentoring. It rocked, it sucked. It was the first time that Scott and I had been apart and I hated my life. In the end I came back and started my own business and started planning a family. Where was I going with this.. Oh yeah, working. So kiddos come, I work and find myself working full time. I actually have a wait list of clients. Its nuts and sometimes very overwhelming but I am blessed. The kiddos have been in daycare while I work which is something that I never wanted to do but they seemed to love it. Until the other day ( I swear, I am getting at something )
I found out that my kiddos have been being spanked!! We are a non spanking family for reasons that I will blog about some other time. This is the second time this has happened at this daycare and needless to say the last. I pulled my kiddos, changed my work schedule, and have cut my schedule down to part time. So, what would you do if someone spanked your kids? Honestly, I am red zone mad and have not said anything to the lady about this yet. When I talk about the incident I still cannot think straight. I need your advise and prayers for clarity in this situation. Am I over/under reacting? How does your family feel about spanking?


Carrie said...

Oh my! We are a "limited spanking" family since I grew up in a "spank for any reason" family and I don't think it works for every single situation. ANYWAY, I would be mad as all H-E-L-L if someone took it upon themselves to do that with my children.
Good for you for pulling them out of daycare. Honestly, I would steer clear of speaking to this person either in person or over the phone. Just write a letter. You can go back and erase things that way! Tell her straight out that you have taken your children out of her care and they will not be returning due to her administering spankings to your children. Be very clear about the fact that you are a non-spanking family and you will be finding a childcare provider who better matches your discipline standards. That leaves no questions about what's going on and you are free to not speak to this person about it again (unless they are a family friend, which is a different issue and I'm afraid I have no advice there). I hope you can clear the air and find a better match for your boys!

Tarah said...

We are "limited spanking" family as well, but I would LOOSE it if someone else did spank my kids.
I'm still rattled about it with you.
Thanks for blogging!

Angela said...

You have every right to be upset. I'm surprised that someone who's business is nurturing children would hit a child. Especially someone else's child! I agree with Carrie on how to handle the situation.

Anonymous said...

You obviously were mistaken

Darla said...

I don't think a business should be spanking children without explicit permission/authorization to do such a thing. That is something they should tell you up front is a part of their discipline if that is the way they do things. Personally I don't spank my kids often, but I do sometimes, and I think a lot of other people should spank their kids a little more often sometimes too. However, I don't feel that my way is the only way and certainly every family should be allowed to raise their kids in their own way. I would have more negativity against a family who spanked too much than I would against one that doesn't spank at all. For year I did not spank my children, but eventually that stopped working, so occasionally I resort that. Usually a threat of it is enough and a reminder that I really will once or twice a year works out great. As for your situation, they had no right, unless you signed something during admission or registration stating that you understand they do that.

If I were caring for other people's children on a regular basis, I would ask them how they want their children disciplined or tell them my policies if I were set in my ways.

Julie Gillies said...

Hi Andrea,

Thanks for stopping by my blog--it's so nice to meet you.

I'm sorry about your bad day-care experience. I understand slowing down your accelerating career so you could regroup.

I spanked my kids on occassion (they were strong-willed) but still believe that every parent has a right to raise their children how they see fit. For a daycare business to issue corporal punishment without a parent's prior consent and authorization is wrong. I hope by now the issue has all been worked out and all is well.

Wishing you and your family a wonderful Christmas!